â€œBe ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? And what communion hath light with darkness? (2 Corinthians 6: 14)
Iâ€™ve been challenging myself with this issue for a long time, and Iâ€™m about to be very honest about it.
I do believe that becoming attached to a person who does not share your faith in Jesus Christ can be difficult.
I experienced that before I remember one incident where I met this guy at my job.
We seemed to hit it off really well, but he did not share the same faith as me.
He actually did not remember the last time he attended church, and I tried to be understanding and invite him to my church. His answer was very typical: â€œmaybe one dayâ€ â€“ something I hear often from guys I attract.
I always seem to think that the devil is trying to test me into lowering my standards and to fall into temptation with worldly guys.
And me believing that everyone deserves a chance, I follow my flesh instead of letting the Holy Spirit lead me in the right directions.
Iâ€™ve learned to avoid complications with guys and to stop wasting my time on guys who I know are not on the same page as me.
So from now on, Iâ€™m going to be up front with the guys who approach me and ask basic questions: â€œAre you saved?â€ â€œHave you accepted Jesus as your Lord and Savior?â€ â€œDo we share the same beliefs and interests?â€
Iâ€™ve finally realized that trying to date someone thatâ€™s not geared in the same direction as me will only hurt me more.
Theyâ€™re only going to bring me down spiritually instead of lifting me up.
I have to keep my eyes focused on my relationship with Christ before I have time for any guy, because if Iâ€™m not all I can be for Christ, how can I possibly be all I should be for a guy? It would not work.
I remember my friend once saying to me â€“ ask yourself this before getting seriously involved with any guy: â€œWill he love you as Christ loves the Church and will he be your protector, comforter, provider and nurturer?â€
I thought about those questions, and I decided to let Christ be my eyes and wait for him to send me my mate when itâ€™s the right time.
Iâ€™d rather be single and know God than to be in a profound relationship and miss what Christ is molding just for me.
So, my advice to all of you who are thinking about being in an unequally yoked relationship, pray about it and trust in Christ to build your relationships.
I recall my pastor saying to our church congregation one Saturday morning: â€œYou may get tired on the journey, but you should never be tired of the journey.â€
That really has helped me out tremendously when I seem to have wasted my time on guys that are not on the same path as me spiritually; along with a scripture verse from Psalms 119: 37: â€œTurn away my eyes from looking at worthless things, and revive me in your way.â€