I have been in this world for a little over 23 years. However, life and circumstances have taught me a few lessons. I am hoping that my life lessons will help someone out and maybe help them avoid learning them the hard way.
Lesson one: people are very similar to clothing – some are very seasonal. These are the low-rise jeans. They look cute but are totally uncomfortable and expose our most unattractive features. Who really wants their butt crack and love handles to be accentuated by too tight jeans that arenâ€™t comfortable to sit in?
On the other hand, there are the friends that are like those favorite pair of black pants. They compliment your figure and make you look and feel good. The black pants and you know about the cellulite on your thighs but the pants will never show it. Not after a million washes.
The key with friends is knowing how to treat them. When the season is over, let the seasonal friend go. People have made the mistake of trying to make a seasonal friend and old stand-by and got their feelings hurt. Make sure that you take very good care of the black pant friends. Dry clean only.
Lesson two: this one tends to be hard for people to grasp. It was hard for me, but I came to accept it. Your parents are not perfect. As much as we want them to be, dad is not superman and mom does not have rechargeable batteries in her back. Also, they donâ€™t have all the right answers. Some important decisions were made on the fly and sent on the wings of a prayer. Forgiving family for not being perfect will not only bring you closer to inner peace, but is also good for your personal well-being.
Lesson three: be yourself. I am not making reference to the Beyonce and Mike Jones that you fantasize yourself to be. Rather, I mean for you to be who you really are. Lesson four: do something nice for someone other than yourself once in a while. Reason one, it will come back to you, and usually more than what you gave. Reason two, you will feel good after you make someone smile. You never know, you could have made their day. I love doing random acts of kindness. Itâ€™s just a simple way to show people that they are thought of and appreciated.
For those of you who are not so selfless and more self-oriented than you think, as I said before, you will get what you gave.
These are just a few things I have learned and experienced on my own and found to be true. There are many more lessons in my repertoire which I will disclose at a later date.