Some may say forgiveness is easy, but I think it takes strength, being the bigger person and letting stuff go. It takes forgetting about the past and stepping towards the future.
I know it hurts so bad when someone has wronged you, but the best way to handle the situation is to pray for that person.
â€œFollow peace with all men, and holiness, without which no man shall see the Lord: Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled.â€ Hebrew 12:14-15
I remember a dispute with one of my friends in high school.
We were waiting out in front of the school for my mother to pick us up and I said something about her being simple towards this no good guy she was datingâ€”in my opinion.
She disagreed and felt offended, then she decided to tell me about my dating life.
Words flew back and forth, and before long we were not talking to each other.
Still to this day we are not friends and that was almost six years ago. However, during my senior year in high school I decided to be the bigger person and do what I knew was right, so I approached her in the hall and told her that â€œweâ€™ve been friends for too long to let something like this ruin our friendship, Iâ€™m sorry about what I said.
â€œI said some things that werenâ€™t right and I do apologize our friendship probably wonâ€™t be the same but I just wanted you to know that I am truly sorry.â€
She did not except my apology but least I know I did what was right. Thatâ€™s on her to live with that type of grudge in her heart all her life. God said, â€œforgive and you will be forgiven.â€
How can you ask Godâ€™s forgiveness of your sins if you canâ€™t even forgive your enemy?
â€œFinally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one for another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous: Not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing: but contrariwise blessing; knowing that ye are thereunto called, that ye should inherit a blessing. For he that will love life, and see good days, let him refrain his tongue from evil, and his lips that they speak no guile: Let him eschew evil, and do good; let him seek peace, and ensue it. For the eyes of the Lord are over the righteous, and his ears are open unto their prayers: but the face of the Lord is against them that do evil.â€
My mistake was that I rendered evil for evil, I let my mouth talk words that I knew were wrong, but at that time I was not thinking about my friendâ€™s feelings.
We need to be wiser about guarding our mouths and not saying things that we will soon regret. Even if we are right about a situation, we may still have the wrong attitude.
So bless your enemies and do well to them.
1 Peter 3:9-22 tells us when we do this, the Lord will bless us, even if that person still wronged you.
Now, if we try to get back at someone for something that they have done to us; we are only alienating the problem, God said â€œvengeance is mine.â€
So if we truly love God, we must follow His word and not get into confrontations with others, but be gentle with all men.
2 Timothy 2:24-25 says, â€œAnd the servant of the Lord must not strive; but be gentle unto all men, apt to teach, patient, in meekness instructing those that oppose themselves; if God peradventure will give them repentance to the acknowledging of the truth.â€